SUCCESS IS NOT ABOUT.. "WHAT CAR THAT U DRIVE IN?" part.3

The last speaker of the seminar is, my rector whose name is Anies.. but then I'll call him "Pak Anies" on this page.  The first sentence that Pak Anies said was:

Apa yang terlihat sekarang dari dirinya, adalah pahala orang tuanya.

The statement had mean that, bagaimanapun kita hari ini, adalah usaha keras kedua orang tua untuk merangsang kita ketika masih kecil dulu. Pendek kata "Investasi Orang Tua" kita, ya.. yang ada pada diri kita dan bagaimana diri kita lalu.. jadi apa diri kita sekarang. Karena (as Pak Anies said), rangsangan pertama yang diberikan orang tua akan memberikan efek yang luar biasa untuk masa mendatang. Misalnya nih.. ketika dulu kecil.. my mom always said that "girl couldnt cry when she has a problem.. but she must find the right way for solving her problem" then, until today.. i've never cry because of the simple thing 'till the complex thing. Kecuali ketika laptop hilang dan sariawan yang sekarang buat aku gak bisa makan apa-apa.. :P

Naaah.. jadi dulu tuh pas Pak Anies masih kecil, there were many things that he did which came from his parent's creativity, I think. Until I was imagining that.. if someday I'll be a mother of a son, I'm going to do what Pak Anies's mother did. Such as: 

 Let them solve their problem on their own way

One day, if I see my son will be hit by other children, then.. I'll just cry and let my son do what he could do for solving his problem - as same as Pak Anies's mother did when saw Pak Anies was hit by other children. Tapi.. kalo misalnya berantemnya udah keterlaluan.. gue gamang juga dah tuh anak orang! hihii.. :P I mean, as soon as not dangerous the fight, it will be ok for teaching my son to solve his own problem, but if the fight will kill him.. then I'll kill the fight first.. not the fighter but the fight. ^^

Oke.. I know, may be someday I'll be an over protective mother.. why not?! because today, when I see children run.. my heart will be so afraid of they're going to fall and cry.. even they will not - may be. Who knows. Tapi.. biarlah kecemasan itu jadi konsumsi pribadi diri.. bagaimana pun penting bagi aku untuk mengubah ketakutan ini menjadi sebuah motivasi agar anak bisa tumbuh menjadi anak yang baik, bertanggungjawab dan.. well..yaa gitu deh **udah siap jadi ibu? :P

 I should give my son an extraordinary pride for improving his confidence and give him instruction that he must be able to love reading or every good things indirectly.

Then .. my son will feel the impact of those things that I did, after he grows up. but those are treatments for son, aren't those? And how about if.. I have  a daughter? What should I do for keeping my daughter? I hope there'll be another seminar will talk about success also but the story will be explaining about how to keep a daughter for going success ^^ Karena.. treatment untuk laki-laki dan perempuan pasti beda kan? Atau.. mereka bisa diperlakukan sama? Mengingat isu emansipasi sedang sangat kencang belakangan. O.K but we're not going to talk about the emancipation here.

For sure, there will be banyak "pr" memang begitu ingin menjadi pribadi yang sukses --terlepas dari apa itu sukses menurut dirimu, tapi well ya.. I'm one of them who agree with success is not about what kinda car u drive in-- 

Ketika ingin menjadi sukses, maka pasti, we have to do more.. or something extra.. 

Bagaimana bisa coba menjadi seseorang yang perlakuannya biasa-biasa aja, tapi jadi sukses.. I dont think there will be a success person on that way. Rasanya.. hampir di semua cerita orang - orang sukses, pasti melakukan hal secara ekstra.. misal: belajar lebih keras, berdoa lebih kencang, dan.. bla.. bla.. mungkin tidur pun tidak 7- 8 jam, mungkin hanya 3 jam.. dan itu memang perlu dilakuan untuk menjadi seseorang yang sukses. ^^ 

And you know what why Pak Anies chosen for being a lecturer, because he has his own criteria for selecting his job, there are:

1. the job must be improving my intellectual
2. the job must be filling my family's need
3. and the last one, the job must give the social impact

I think the criteria could be my criteria also for selecting job, because.. when the time come for me for being a smart mother.. it will be not for me, but also for my children. One of my dreams is being a smart mother in order that I could teach my children on my way, by my own self. ^^

The Seminar "Be your self and be success" gave me many things to face the future.. and I think .. the successful will be mine..

Last but not least, thank you very much Paramadina University for the seminar.